Episode 26: Raja Vaidya

March 12, 2025

Guest: Raja Vaidya

Innovative and collaborative Scientist with scientific expertise, proven expertise in problem solving QC and adverse events.

Extensive experience in analytical method development/validation, process improvement, and tech transfer in Heme, Cell based assay development, CAR-T binding, and Flow Cytometry panels in both BSL-2 and BSL-3 facilities.

Demonstrated ability to work across multiple functions internally and externally (suppliers, customers, R&D) while delivering successful outcomes in a fast-paced environment despite changing management needs.

Recognized with Leadership Award (Inspire 2021) for effectively managing multiple projects simultaneously in a matrix organization using excellent organizational skills, and positively impacting business culture and skills of hundreds of fellow employees.

Expert at building relationships at all levels within the organization as well as within vendors and external partners/partners

Open to partnership with innovative fast moving companies in CAR-T therapies and analytical development to impact patient lives.

in a nutshell - Team focused Innovative Scientist saving patient lives, Overcoming Self Limiting Beliefs Speaker despite lifelong speech handicap, and Executive Speaker Confidence building Coach

Episode Transcript

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Mark Entrekin: But today we have a very special guest. A friend of mine we met just a short while back, but we have truly built a wonderful friendship because of where he is and what he's doing for tomorrow.

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Mark Entrekin: Raja Vieda is arguably the world's authority on invisible disabilities.

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Mark Entrekin: Triple talents is a science for the mind. Karate for the body and music for the soul well rounded.

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Mark Entrekin: Over the past 6 years he has empowered workshops on mindset, speaking

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Mark Entrekin: confidence and 4 energies fulfillment that have helped thousands face their fears.

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Mark Entrekin: As founder and CEO of Victorymindset academy.com. He yielded 100% success rate in guiding clients to face their fears and overcome their self-limiting beliefs.

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Mark Entrekin: During 40 years of martial arts, teaching 40 during 40 years of martial arts teaching. He discovered a pattern in students that are moving from the White Belt mindset

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Mark Entrekin: We have a wonderful speaker. Today. He was going to show us so many things about

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Mark Entrekin: how we can improve our lives, make our lives better, and do all the things that we need to do.

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Mark Entrekin: I hear my screen going on here. Stop my sharing.

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Mark Entrekin: This is the phone. This is what I'm going to get Renee. And we were talking about earlier. This is what Renee is. Gonna help me with starting next week, because for me it's always a challenge.

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Mark Entrekin: getting the screen set up correctly building on it. We built it up here and there. We are

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Mark Entrekin: Raja, how are you and welcome to the podcast how are you today?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Oh, thank you so much for inviting me to the unity. Podcast and I got to say, it's a joy to work with you. Again. You're a great guest on my show. The unboxed me today show not long ago.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and, you know I'm just here to

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: to inspire, to entertain and to educate and hope. We can have a lot of fun along the way.

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Mark Entrekin: That sounds so awesome. I'm looking forward to it

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Mark Entrekin: because we have so much to talk about today. And I'm so ready to hear. As we talked a few minutes ago. What this

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Mark Entrekin: 1st question is going to bring out.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Sure. Let's shoot.

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Mark Entrekin: All right. What inspired you, Raj? I've talked to you several times, and I'm inspired when I talk to you. But what inspired you to become a speaker

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Mark Entrekin: and a coach, despite your lifelong struggle, and I'll let you tell us about that.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Well, I want to clarify. It's my lifelong struggle is is that I have a

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: is that I have a stutter, and I deal with it still today, every single day, so every day, every hour, every minute, minute, every every minute of my life.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I have to deal with this Constance Tirago. So over the years I've

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: actually try to find ways to hide from it, I used to hide within. Karate used to hide within singing. I used to hide within cancer research and just work in the lab and let someone else be the

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: be. The presenter problem is over time. What I discovered was that people were using my work.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and even though I'd be given credit for giving the data

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: the last 10 years I had 5 different managers present my work.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and they would get the promotion.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: We're doing the work, even though they would say yes. Well, Roger did a lot of work.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and then the last one left my name off the slide deck.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: which was which was the last insult that I would allow.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and that is, when my life changed. So in 2017 I started to face my fear and said, All right. What can I do now?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Because, as much as I complain to my boss? And then his boss. They all basically said, Well, it's not polite, not good, but water on the bridge. And you can you? You should be positive going forward. I'm like, no.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: this is not right. So I said, what can I do differently now to show what I can do? Show what I'm capable?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And that's when I decided. You know what

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: the thing holding me back is is is my shame of speaking, and

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I started with toastmasters and reading books, and masterminding and hiring coaches and gurus and seminars, and

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: everything changed for me. All of a sudden I realized

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: so much more was under my control than I had realized it was previously. I was getting crushed. It was soul crushing experience. And I was wondering, what? How can I get out of this? And how can I

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: make a new life. So I decided to take that anger and transform it. So my parents taught me. Well, they said, All right. You always learn to forgive. So I decided to forgive, but not forget.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and transform that energy into fuel

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: for the next person that I was about to become.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: As a result of that.

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Mark Entrekin: That is excellent.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I decided to uplift myself in a positive way, and because of that

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I joined the the Toastmasters group at my my company, too, which I didn't even know they had.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And then I started this Speaker Confidence Workshop Series.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: At 1st it was just to try to get introductions into the Toys Masters Group.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: but all of a sudden

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: it just took a life of its own. I. The 1st year I wanted to get 20 people signed up for it, but 40 showed up in person.

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Mark Entrekin: One.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Next year we're.

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Mark Entrekin: Choices.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Good.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and the next year we had Covid. So we just so we did, decided to move a virtual. And what happened was, we had 80 people

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: on the Zoom. We had twice as many as the previous year, and then the next last year.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And the next year, I think, okay, good. Hopefully, we get the same amount. We get another 80 90 people. That'd be nice.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: We had a hundred 50. So we broke the zoom and we had to find somebody else's zoom account to use.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And then, since then I have anywhere from like 1 50 to 2 50 that I'm coaching in a 2 h workshop and teaching them about speaking. Authority me, the speaker that can't talk right. But

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: here's the here's the flip side of that.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I learned along the way that your greatest challenge is your greatest gift.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Think about that.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Your greatest challenge is your greatest gift.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: because a lot of us think that that challenges a wall.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And what happens is through personal development and coaching and learning.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: You become larger than that wall, so that wall becomes a speed bump now.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and now you just walk over, around or through it.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and when you do that you become the person that you were meant to be I love. How?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: If you're a fan of Steve Martin.

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Mark Entrekin: Yes, hilarious comedian.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Great comedian, great actor, and just just truly, just a really nice guy all around. He had a quote I had heard years ago

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: that still sticks with me. He he hits that, you know.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: in the beginning, when he was trying to audition for parts, you know.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know, he would think that he would be better talented, or better, gave a better audition, or read than some other people he saw watching the same time.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know, he he would get snubbed for stuff because he just wasn't big enough yet he wasn't he he didn't have the clout yet to catch the kind of roles that he wanted.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And so he just kept working and working and working, and he kept saying, You know, at some point

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know, be so good.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: They can't ignore you, and I love that.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And that's what I try to do honestly is that

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I just keep making new goals

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: because you can tell the people that are growing.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: the people that are done growing.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: They're trying to reach for a finish line.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And the people that are, you know, driving way faster past them is

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: they're the people that are creating starting lines

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: So now I'm starring in 2 movies. Then we made a comic book based off of that. Oh, and, by the way, at that time I started a book.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Right. And and and I laugh because, like at some point, you have to start realizing there's a great. There's a great book out there called extreme ownership by Jocko.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: But if all of a sudden, if you can flip the script on your mind and say you know what you now I used to think because of my because of my because of my stuttering that there were out of 10,000 things. There were 9,990 that I that it could not do.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: this is my work. I want to be seen. And as soon as I started saying that people started to treat you differently, they say, oh, yeah, Roger's got a voice, and I've only recently found my voice in the past couple of years, and as a result.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I joke around now like. I think, that God gave me this this speech handicap, because he also made me so handsome. So it took a balance.

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Mark Entrekin: I have to work on my speaking because people don't understand me, because I'm rattling it so fast.

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Mark Entrekin: and some of you may have already caught on. I have a little bit of a Southern draw.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Why?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Fantastic. I know you're you're more evolved. So that's great. Wish I had more audience like that right.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: That's it. But you put yourself out there. Then people start to understand. And that's that's really all I'm doing is just now. I can put myself out there.

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Mark Entrekin: As you say, it is a challenge, because I know I want to talk slower and be understood better, because I've been up in front of audiences before.

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Mark Entrekin: and I become very comfortable with the audience or some of the people in the audience.

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Mark Entrekin: and it's only that they may or may not understand me as well as I'd like for them to, and that's where I've got to focus my energy.

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Mark Entrekin: Because why am I talking? And it's not for them to understand me.

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Mark Entrekin: Maybe I shouldn't talk so much right.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: That's okay. There, if you've ever read a read a personality plus by Florence.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And when you get a camera and you look underneath, it's going.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: That's what's happening to me. So I have to have 2 trains of consciousness

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: just to be able to speak more fluently, because I'm thinking all right. Here I come to that

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: unvoiced, consonant explosive sound. Here I come to that, alighted M. That I can try to glide through. Here comes an open that's a little bit easier. Here comes a closed E. You see how tight your lips are, so I'm thinking those things as I'm speaking.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and and and and and combination consonants like like St's, you know, I still have a problem with statistic.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know. And you know, whoever thought. Let's call the syndrome where people have a hard time saying constants, let's call it a step to ring.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: That's 3 hard, 3 hard consonants in it. Thanks a lot. But that's okay. 5 out of 4 people have a problem with math. Right? So.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And you know. So we just laugh it off. It's it's okay.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: But I honestly, I think the thing that changed my life the most was that I learned to face that fear.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: So for anybody else watching out there. When I talk about invisible disabilities, I'm talking about everyone out there who feels like they may be neurodiverse. Maybe they have a physical challenge. Maybe they have fibromyalgia. Maybe they're in a wheelchair. Maybe they're speech, hearing or sight challenged.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: of being accepted, or fear of being I used to be ashamed

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: of, of of my until recently, when I left my previous company. Then I joined my most recent one.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: For the 1st time in my life I put down the check mark. Yes, I have a handapp.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and it was so freeing to finally say, You know what?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I think it was Eleanor Roosevelt that said.

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Mark Entrekin: It shouldn't love that one. Yes.

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Mark Entrekin: We just touch on that again. Can you say it one more time, though, because it's 1 that I think about.

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Mark Entrekin: And I talked to people about this.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Certainly, and hope I'm quoting it right. It's

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Mark Entrekin: right? And that is so important that we have to remember

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Mark Entrekin: we are the ones that are choosing that disrespect alright.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I just. I just googled it real fast, just to make sure I'm saying it right. I was close, very close. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

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Mark Entrekin: It's yeah, and that's what she was credited with, and it but it is, and that's and the bottom line is without your consent.

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Mark Entrekin: I could just go ahead and speak fast, and nobody would understand me, and I could complain. I could whine I could find something wrong.

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Mark Entrekin: Or, again, I'm with toastmasters with you. I am a distinguished toastmaster, Dtm.

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Mark Entrekin: It's it was me that had to do something, and I think what you've done and what you said last 8 year, 2,017, 2,025.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Right and and and it's an uphill battle. Because, they finally said, You know what? I'm not going to allow them

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: to put me down, you know, you know. Let's go back to dirty dancing. No one puts baby in a corner right.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I decided to stand my ground. I drew my line in the sand and said, All right enough.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Something has to change, and I'm going to make a change. And I didn't know how.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: anybody who feels stuck in their life or their corporate job, or they're stuck in their marriage, or they're stuck in their career or stuck in a friendship, or a culture, or a or a partnership. That they're not sure is. But you know you have to sometimes just draw a line in his hand.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: start to make forward movement, and one of the things I started doing is, I said, you know what

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I don't care if if I but you're going to listen to me, anyway.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And so when I get up on stage.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: 2 days later I got a cold email from someone. I don't even know

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Dei discovery, meeting our our summit, and I said, all right. Well, who's going to be there? Well, there's going to be over 200 ex exists from

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Different corporations, companies, pharmaceuticals, and and other companies, I mean, you know, there were people from Amazon, their Walmart, their Humana, and you know.

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Mark Entrekin: Amazing.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Want me to speak for how long? And they said, A 45 min. I'm like, Okay.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I was, you know I don't mind my language. I was I was I was about to.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I was about to crack my pants, thinking, Oh, my God! Can they do this. But I said, All right, when, when, as a friend Kimberly says, You know, you know when someone hands you the mic, you take it

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: right. So I said, All right, I'm doing it. I'm doing it. I don't know how I'm going to do it. You're going to build the plane as you fly it.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I redefined my fear as face everything and rise, base everything.

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Mark Entrekin: Face everything. Stand up! Don't let them put you in that corner like you said

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Mark Entrekin: base everything and rise, grow forward right.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Yeah, right? And and you know, if you ever think about any successful person, guess what everybody says that

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know Jeffrey Bezos. Wow! He's so rich he makes so much money because he's he's the owner of Amazon.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know. The 1st couple of years of Amazon. He thought he was going to fail.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: He named the he he named the company Kadabra.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and everybody thought that it would it. It meant cadaver.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and people didn't get it. Then he changed. Then the next year he changed and changed the company to the wordless.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and it still wasn't drawing eyes just like the marketing just wasn't working. Finally.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know. That's when borders books came at him and and the CEO borders, said, Nope, you can't do that. We're going to sue you, you know. So they had to figure out what means big without saying it.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: in the original, like, he just took a piece of paper bunch of papers and wrote Amazon on the wall with a sharpie, and that was his business.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And and I remember, even in even even at Facebook headquarters.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you go out there, you give it your best shot, and you're imperfectly you.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: It's so much better than you not doing it at all.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: It's sort of like it's much better to have loved and lost rather than to not have loved at all

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: right.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Same business, and every single leader out there has failed so many times before they succeeded. But the difference is, whereas the average person who is not trained in mindset and Nlp and and and business skills. They think the failure is the end.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: whereas the people that succeed the failure is the stepping stone, and they stack

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: those failures, and they keep going up, and as they do that

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: it becomes a staircase to success.

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Mark Entrekin: And then they get. That's how they get to the stop.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Them but.

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Mark Entrekin: To the top one step at a time. That's how they get to the top one step, as you're saying. One step on that staircase at a time, to continue taking them forward, and not be afraid of making a mistake.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Alright!

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Mark Entrekin: And that's me.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: What's funny? Funny Mark? People had that fear of

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: mistakes, fear of being judged fear. When when I teach my speaker conference workshops, I talk about

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: a lot of the speaking

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: jitters and and and and you know, speaking is one of the worst fears in the world.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: People they put it above.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Death and taxes, and of course, flying on a plane or swimming.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: So the worst thing in the world would be like if you're on a transatlantic flight over the water, and you're sitting next to the next dentist on one side and the tax accountant on your left. And so, you know, would you still be afraid of speaking? Then?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: You know it's it's it's it's 1 of those fears where

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I've kind of boiled it down

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: in my program. My system. This is just my 2 cents here.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I think there are 2 things that

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: keep people from speaking with confidence and authority.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: One is lack of preparation.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Because if you're unprepared, of course you're not going to feel confident.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Right? So if you have a chance, prepare practice, get prepared. Same thing in Karate, when you go to a tournament. If you haven't practiced your form, if you haven't practiced your sidekicks, if you haven't done your push-ups, you haven't been coming to class and doing your cardio. You haven't been doing a kickboxing rounds when you go out to the tournament. You're going to feel unprepared because you actually didn't do the work, and your body knows it, and your mind knows it

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: right.

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Mark Entrekin: Practice promotes the performance.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: In. Oh, absolutely! It gives you that confidence. I know, I put in the time.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know, when I was when I was younger, you know, when I was 16 years old I made it to world championships.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and soon as I did that

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I made a 2 year plan to go to the Olympics.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I trained 6.

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Mark Entrekin: They'll be.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: 4 or 5 HA day. So from age 16 to 18, that's what I did.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And then, 3 months after my 18th birthday, I went to a national qualifier on the east coast.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and I took home 2 firsts and a second, and I won the entire wow

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: for the entire tournament, beating out 400 other black belts. So I had made the.

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Mark Entrekin: Congratulations.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Thank you, and.

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Mark Entrekin: Wow!

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Here was not in Karate.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: My fear was, I got an offer to go out to Colorado Springs and train

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: as an alternate for the for the Us. Team.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and I would, and then I would have competed in the in the in the 94 winter games in Taekwondo.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And instead, I had gotten a scholarship to college.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and my parents tell me about you know, Raja, what's this, Karate? Nonsense! You don't need to do that

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: secretly I was relieved because I thought you know what.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I don't want people to talk bad about me because of the way I talk.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: So I didn't go. That was a real reason I didn't go.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: wasn't fear of competing. I loved competing.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: It was fear of being judged.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and that is the second part of why people, when they speak

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: think that it is so hard is that that fear of being judged, fear of trying to be perfect, trying to be.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know, trying to promote that buy-in for the entire audience.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: You don't have to be perfect. You just have to get out there and do it.

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Mark Entrekin: I just cherish what you're telling me right now, Roger, that is so important, and if you don't mind, can I toss in a little bit of a joke. Here.

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Mark Entrekin: do this judging. Did you know that most judges? Well, let me start it off better.

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Mark Entrekin: You heard all the lawyer jokes? Right. I mean, there's lawyer jokes all over the Internet. Seems like everybody knows a couple.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: So so I know. Yep.

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Mark Entrekin: Exactly all the Lori jokes. Well, did you know that almost all judges our lawyers?

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Mark Entrekin: That's how a judge gets to be a judge

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Mark Entrekin: 5 or more years of adversarial experience.

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Mark Entrekin: Oh, adversarial! What is that? Well, adversarial, right, wrong, good, bad likes you, doesn't like you likes what you're wearing, doesn't like what you're wearing likes. Your attitude doesn't like your attitude, that's adversarial.

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Mark Entrekin: and that's what they have in that legal in the law firm. It's adversarial experience to become a judge, and then they are the ones that are judging so many others based on what they learned as a lawyer. And then we need to go back and read those lawyer jokes one more time.

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Mark Entrekin: We can't let judging bother us, because, as you're mentioning with your fear again, free everything and rise FEAR.

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Mark Entrekin: And I call it FEAR. False evidence about reality. And I'm not.

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Mark Entrekin: I work a lot with reality focused as that false evidence about reality. Anybody that's judging you

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Mark Entrekin: first.st Most of them only have an opinion. They have a rumor.

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Mark Entrekin: so their judgment of you or me, or anyone else, in spite of how we talk, how I talk, how you talk!

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Mark Entrekin: It's a judge based on a rumor.

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Mark Entrekin: a learning, possibly even their own small society.

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Mark Entrekin: It's our. There's another word. I'm searching for you. I'm sorry I can't think of it, but

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Think it's scarcity mindset.

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Mark Entrekin: Yeah, it is. It's kind of crazy. But just that whole social concept.

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Mark Entrekin: what's right or what's wrong. And it's hurting a lot of us.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Yeah, like, right now. After the.

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Mark Entrekin: And I mean, just in our speaking. I'm sorry sorry about you, but once it's a lot of us, I mean everyone, I mean 100% of the

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Mark Entrekin: oh, yeah, I agree.

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Mark Entrekin: Childish, immature, insecure, selfish judgment is is hurting all of us. So I'm sorry. But go ahead.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Yeah. Well, I found out that ever since the advent of social media, a lot of the studies have shown that

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: because people start to believe what's happening on social media, the pictures, the images, the posts there starts to become

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: social media envy.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: There are people right now, even on what started out on Facebook and Snapchat and Instagram, and you know,

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And and you know, people look at those pictures of Oh, the perfect Thanksgiving and the perfect Christmas tree and the perfect family photo.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and they start to believe, oh, that's not fair. They have the perfect life, and I don't.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And the amount of depression, and the amount of anxiety has increased exponentially. I was about to say, Hey, excrementally, and I'm like, that's about the same. And so and

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and and so a couple of years ago some of the school districts in Seattle had actually,

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: had had lawsuits against

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: 3 of the largest social media platforms, and with the reasoning that the algorithms are trained

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: to make these children subservient and keep them bring them back.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And it actually trains the way your brain thinks, and that is, that is harsh to any developing child.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: So I tell my children.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: no social media, no electronics at the table. That's the same thing. What Bill Gates and and Steve Jobs did

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you realize that family time is sacred every day? One of my

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: every day when I come home.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know, at 5 o'clock I asked for a 5 by 5,

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and what that means is that at 5 Pm.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I need a 5 second hug. I don't care where you are. You're doing.

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Mark Entrekin: All right.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: You're watching TV. You're washing the dishes. You're out mowing the lawn, but if you're mowing the lawn, wait till you're done.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: but I expect my 5 by 5, and I need a 5 second hug because

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: the studies have shown that, you know

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you you I'll give him a hug, and usually my hugs are longer than 5 seconds.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and then they talk to you. Because now I say, listen, you are the highlight of my day. So that's why, you're you're my 5 by 5.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And all of a sudden. Now, kids realize. Oh, Daddy, Daddy thinks we're important.

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Mark Entrekin: He does care.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: A great anchor to have throughout your day. So every single day of your life

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: somebody's out there thinking about you. It's sort of like. When

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: when I was a child, I used to watch the Richie rich cartoons

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and Jeeves. I think the butler would always comment. You know. 4 Pm. It's tea time, and no matter where, like Richie Witch was around the world in his adventures, you know it's tea time, Master Richie, and he'd find him

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: right, which meant Richie Rich had a lifeline. He had an anchor to always save him

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: from his crazy adventures.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And so, you know, if we create those anchors and that safety net for our children.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know that's something that where I think

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: they're not going to feel judged, they're going to feel loved.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and we need to have more of that in society.

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Mark Entrekin: We do.

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Mark Entrekin: And I like the way you teach that what you're told me, Roger, because it's so important.

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Mark Entrekin: and with all the coaching and helping others that you do. What do you do, or how do you help people

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Mark Entrekin: overcome some of these self-limiting beliefs?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: That's a great question that will take weeks and days and years.

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Mark Entrekin: I bet we only have 15, so I know.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: In this short time I would love to share a few highlights with you.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Thank you.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Number one.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: What if that question of what if starts out the conversation and starts to reset your mind to possibilities.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: What if you didn't want that cigarette?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: How would that feel?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: What would your life be like if you didn't want that cigarette?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: What if you didn't eat ice cream at night?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: How'd your life change?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Would you sleep better? Would you lose weight.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Would you be just as happy

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: because a lot of lot of eating at nighttime is emotional eating.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: What if?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: What if you showed your husband your wife, your partner.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Something to appreciate them, just because it's Wednesday.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know, and you do that once a quarter.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know. All of a sudden.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know it's not the price of like $5 flowers, but it's more that thought of. Oh, somebody was thinking of me.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and it's not a special day, huh?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: All of a sudden passion

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: the endorphin starts pumping. You start getting pheromones. You start to build that love language of people around you.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and if it's not

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: hours. It can be something else. I joke around like on Facebook. I said, All right. For a Valentine's day. I did the most romantic thing for my wife.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I did the dishes, and you know and guess what you know

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: when she comes home from work. And I already did the dishes because the kids have been eating stuff and making a mess. I clean up the kitchen and she comes home, and she's like.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Oh, I don't have to do all that.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Oh, that guy loves me right? So the idea.

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Mark Entrekin: And it works both ways. It works always right. It's just those little things that we do for others. Right?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Like, for example, my daughter, I love her. She's 12 years old.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and she's about to become a teenager, this year and turn 13.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: One of the little things I do to show her I love her is that she has this little battery bank.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: That I bought both my children, so they have it in the backpack. They they won't ever have their phones die. They'll always have a little backup

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: but she uses it

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: almost every day, anyway. So a lot of times she would forget to charge it like

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: yesterday. At night I saw that it was. It was at 8% full.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: so I plugged it in for her.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know, and I didn't tell her I didn't, you know.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know. Scold her. I just said, Hey, honey, just so, you know, I plugged in your battery bank.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and she's thinking, oh, thanks. Was it low? I said.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: yeah, it was a little low.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know. So now, what she's gonna realize is that Daddy's looking out for her.

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Mark Entrekin: Even when she's not expecting it.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Alright. So those little things that we can do for each other

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: are are really, that's the good stuff.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Those small things it's it's not about. It is about once in a while you can have those grand gestures, and you know a hundred roses and and buy out the restaurant, and we have balloons and doves, and you know, you know a concert band playing for you on Valentine's Day, or it can be a simple thing, as like I did the dishes for her, and so she was happy, and it put her in a good mood

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: when she got home.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: You know the You.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: You've heard of the book, the the love languages, right? So.

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Mark Entrekin: I have. Yes, I've got their own audible.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Yeah. And and I love that book great, because people don't realize there's at least 5 different love languages. I'm not going to go through it now.

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Mark Entrekin: Albornia.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: But but definitely go, go check that out

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and think about what it is that you can change in your life for the better. So.

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Mark Entrekin: And that's 1 of those things. Sorry to interrupt you because you're on a great point.

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Mark Entrekin: Go ahead.

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Mark Entrekin: We've got 12 min left, but it's not just about change. It's about improving our life, isn't it? It's not just change.

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Mark Entrekin: But doesn't it actually improve.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Right. So so a generation Z. By the way, it's funny

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: they start saying to each other, What's up, Sigma?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And then I don't even know it's just kind of like, they say, like, what's their but what's up, Buddy? Or what's going on? So these kids, these children are saying this term. And for me, I'm thinking Sigma is like the sum of all things. That's what we learn in calculus sigma is, you know, some of all sum of a series of data points

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: right now say that.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Say that.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: You were to go to somebody said, you know what you're my infinity.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: You're the sum of all things for me.

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Mark Entrekin: Wow!

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: How, how would that make you feel?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And someone asked me like, how much you love me? Because sometimes my wife says like, How much do you love me? And I said

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: more than all the stars in the sky?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: So it's you. Give her that response.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: for for all the men watching, and all the ladies watching. Guess what it works both ways. Don't think that men are cavemen, you know. Men need love, too.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know, so let's be evolved. And let's understand that

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: everybody needs affection, love, understanding, and respect.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: It goes both ways.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and I tell my wife all the time it's like man. I didn't get a hug today. I need a hug.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: you know. That doesn't make me weak. It doesn't make me vulnerable. It doesn't make me a wimp.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Not at all makes me a real man, makes me a real father makes me someone that.

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Mark Entrekin: A person.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Exactly makes me a person, and

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: people respond to that. When you start saying you know what. Listen. I made mistakes in the past, too.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I used to try to be so perfect because I wanted to

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: hide my shame and and hide my problems.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: tried to be perfect in everything, perfect in grades perfect in at work, perfect at, you know school, and you know eventually that was also another cover

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: for the embarrassment and the shame that I was trying to hide

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: instead. It took me a long time to realize, you know, what

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I need to learn to break those down those walls a little bit and let someone in.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and you're allowed to be imperfect with that other imperfect person, because no one's perfect out there. We're all imperfect people, and we're all puzzle pieces. We need to find out how to fit together.

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Mark Entrekin: And that's like we talked at the beginning of the call. There is no speaking wrong. It's about understanding.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Helmet.

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Mark Entrekin: We speak. If we have a speech impediment, if we talk too fast, it's all about communication and the end result.

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Mark Entrekin: What we have to say, no matter how we end up saying it right? It's a it's about us coming together.

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Mark Entrekin: It's about us achieving that unity that we are all one. And that's where we have to focus in what we do.

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Mark Entrekin: And that's when I was asking a few minutes ago about what you do to bring people together

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Mark Entrekin: because there's so many out there. The word culture is what I couldn't think of earlier, because it's our learning in our culture that we pick up when we're young.

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Mark Entrekin: and we don't think it's wrong because we learned it from

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Mark Entrekin: possibly our parents, our family external family school, and some of the things that we do. And some of our negativities

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Mark Entrekin: come from our culture because of someone we've heard could come from TV, could come from the social media.

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Mark Entrekin: But we turn it into our culture. And that's the 1st thing again that we have to improve.

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Mark Entrekin: So the things that you're talking about learning about that face, everything and rise.

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Mark Entrekin: It is about us coming together

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Mark Entrekin: and being able to work together as we grow forward.

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Mark Entrekin: And I like about that with what you're doing and how you're doing it.

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Mark Entrekin: We're about 8 min left.

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Mark Entrekin: Do you have a closure? Do you have any things?

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Mark Entrekin: If you had 5 min to give me the best information, the best

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Mark Entrekin: encouragement, because that's what I work on, encouragement, inspiration, and inclusion.

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Mark Entrekin: If you can encourage me.

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Mark Entrekin: what would you cause? I can tell you about making mistakes. There was a time I had talked to a person with a speech impediment, and I didn't even think about it.

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Mark Entrekin: and I was nervous.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Yeah, well, what? Here's what.

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Mark Entrekin: Can you help me with? Help us with.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Here's what I would think

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: is that our lives have been programmed. We've been programmed like you were just saying recently about by your culture, by your parents, by your upbringing, by your coworkers, by social media, by television, by what you read on the phone and by what comes into you in games. And so, you know, I'm a gamer. I love to play video games, too.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: but I know its place, and I know not to let it take over my life.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: But think about this way.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Let's go back to the power of the word, because.

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Mark Entrekin: I've taken a lot of Nlp training. I'm a certified neurotic programmer.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Yep, normal acoustic programming.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And here's what I here's what I work with in a way that people don't realize.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Okay, words become your thoughts, your thoughts become your beliefs, beliefs turn into actions and actions become your achievements.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: think about that.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Words become thoughts, thoughts become beliefs, beliefs become actions, actions become achievements.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Excuse me, got this dry spot in my throat, so.

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Mark Entrekin: I know when we talk this long. And that's the thing. These go so fast and 50%

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Mark Entrekin: minutes into the podcast.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I went to the gym just before this.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Oh, did you? Okay, I was working out, man. I felt I feel awesome today.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And anyway. That. It's it's this simple thought that

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: if you feel stuck in life you're in the wrong community, you have to move.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: A lot of us get stuck in. We don't want to change. We don't want to change. Well, change is scary for anybody, but even positive change is scary, because it's something that your body protects you against. So when we go, when we start to think psychologically, we go from the cortex, we go from the neocortex to the cortex, and then we start to go into your subconscious.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: your middle like.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: That's where all of your thoughts and long term habits can be changed.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: So if you're staying very high level in in, in the cortex and neocortex, you're you're not going to change your habits. You have to get deeper

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: into your subconscious level

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: we call that during theta waves. So that's the same waves that are coming out. There are like a delta and theta waves when you dream you have rem sleep, which is rapid eye

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: movement you can get into. You can go from Alpha to Delta to Theta using binaural beats.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And what that does is that helps your body. Relax and get into that state where you can start to change your life.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: See if you're stuck in a box.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: My next book is called Unbox Me. Today.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: It's a title, but it's also a call to action.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: A lot of us have been programmed. We're stuck in this box of fear.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and whether it's a box of

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: wood, or cardboard, or steel or titanium, guess what you're stuck in that box of your own making.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: But you can break out of it.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And here's the scary part when you break out of that comfortable box of fear that you built for yourself. The other side is something uncomfortable.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and in that uncomfortable zone you have to work through, you have to get used to being. You have to get comfortable, being uncomfortable, because on the other side of that uncomfortable zone that's where your greatest successes lies. That is where you're going to change your life

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: by change I mean, augment your life. You're going to improve your life. You're going to increase your life. You're going to expand your life. You're going to launch your life.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Change is just a word.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: But what happens at the other side of that change?

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: You have

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: power to go through that, and that's the thing that I would tell to everybody is that I thought I didn't have a voice up until recently. I now tell people

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I have a voice, and when I got up on, I know. And and and

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: when I got up on stage.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: this is the the surprising thing

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I tell people this is the moment this is the day when I send all my doubts and demons on their way.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: And beautiful, hear this operatic voice, and they're wondering Whoa!

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I thought this guy had a speech problem. I said, Yeah, not when I sing, though.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Right? And that's another balance. Again.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: my greatest challenge is my greatest gift.

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Mark Entrekin: Love it.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Wanted to find a way to hide it. I learned to sing.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: I took years of classical opera and training.

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Mark Entrekin: And that helps build that voice. Now I can use that voice.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: To help spread the message and help others.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: and I said to everybody, always believe it and become it.

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Mark Entrekin: I love it, Raja. Thank you so much. You'll have about a minute and 15 seconds left that word that you have brought to us, and that voice

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Mark Entrekin: that you share with us. And again, that process of there's nothing anyone can do to us

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Mark Entrekin: that hurts us without our consent.

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Mark Entrekin: and that is something that we need to take every day and everything we do. Thank you so much for being here and sharing your words with us.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Oh, it's my pleasure!

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Mark Entrekin: It's just awesome, because that's 1 of the things that I do, and I think you do. But it's about. I build bridges.

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Mark Entrekin: I build real bridges, bridges between people building unity.

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Mark Entrekin: I show how that though that achieving unity, success, formula, those 7 simple steps will transform any relationship

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Mark Entrekin: from relationships in the bedroom to also relationships in the boardroom

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Mark Entrekin: think better communication, better collaboration with stronger teams, less frustration, clear understanding.

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Mark Entrekin: If we're ready to believe and take division and negativity out and start building connections. That may that truly matter.

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Mark Entrekin: we need to get together.

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Mark Entrekin: So we have your information, Raja. Hope the people will call you and contact you.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Yes.

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Mark Entrekin: The caller contact me.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: That talk. It's important.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: We can.

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Mark Entrekin: Thank you, Raja. We can truly make this a better place one day, one step at a time. Thank you. Again. I appreciate Raja. Everybody. Please contact him.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: Pleasure.

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Mark Entrekin: They see you again all next week.

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Raja Vaidya- Speaker Authority: See you soon.

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Mark Entrekin: There we go.

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Mark Entrekin: TV unity, creating solutions, one reality at a time. Talk to you next week. Thank you all. Thank you, Roger.

Episode 26: Raja Vaidya

Guest: Raja Vaidya

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